The article below is based on the content of a talk I recently gave on supporting parents and families during the current conflict. I have also written it up as a document that can be freely downloaded and shared. It is intentionally written in a general way, so that it can support families across a … More Presence in the Storm: Strength for Families in Times of Stress
It feels rather ironic to be planning a workshop called “Radical Safety in a Dangerous World,” which I am due to deliver in May while war quite literally rages outside the house. As I think about how to build security and resilience within families and communities, I am hearing the distant booms of missiles being … More Radical Safety in a Dangerous World
Right now, we’re taking a few days away as a family in the Galilee – one of our go to places when we want to relax and have a change of scene. The children love it here and there’s something about the birdsong in the trees and the shimmering waters of the Kinneret (as the … More Working Things Through
I was speaking to some of the parents at my son’s home schooling group a few days ago and the words that one of the mums shared resonated with me. She spoke about how unmotivated she feels right now. She said she was making lunch the other day and realised she had run out of … More Frozen
Over these last few months, I have been thinking a lot about grief. Also about the blessings that lie within the tears. I believe that there is beauty for ashes that we sometimes never find because our society is so afraid to mourn. In biblical times, communities came together in their grief. Weeping was loud … More Blessed Are Those Who Mourn
Here in northern Israel, the rockets have stopped falling for the time being. Hezbollah agreed to a ceasefire with Israel in November. Now we’re all praying that the ceasefire will extend to Gaza and that our hostages will finally be released. Of course, the situation is far from perfect. Ceasefire is certainly not the same … More The People Walking in Darkness Have Seen a Great Light
In this video, I talk about a symptom of trauma that many people don’t know much about, and that causes a lot of fear when people suddenly find themselves experiencing it. Stress and trauma can lead to a state of hypervigilance in which we are acutely aware of sounds and sights that we would not … More The Trauma Survival Guide Part 8: Trauma and Distorted Perceptions of Reality
I believe that the world we’re living in is increasingly disconnected. More and more, we’re carrying out our lives in virtual spaces, interacting via screens. In our personal lives, we’re more likely than in previous generations to discard relationships when things go wrong rather than seek to fix them. This goes for friendships, romantic relationships, … More The Trauma Survival Guide Part 7: The Stories of Our Lives
People say that the anticipation of a stressful event is the hardest part of all. The calm before the storm, if you like. This is certainly one of the strangest experiences I have ever had. Last Tuesday and Wednesday, within the space of just a few hours, Israel assassinated two high profile terrorist leaders. Hezbollah … More Waiting
Did you know that babies start learning about sex from the very moment they’re born? Few people realize the power of tender, nurturing touch during infancy and early childhood. But the truth is that children learn their most foundational and enduring lessons about intimacy and relationships through how they are held and touched in the … More The Trauma Survival Guide Part 6: Protecting our Children from Sexual Trauma
Higher Than Me 